How to recognize the diet mentality (aka dieting in disguise)
I remember the first serious diet I ever went on; even then I disguised it under the nuance of it being a "lifestyle" not a diet.I was probably 14 at time time. I was heavier than the average girl my age (or at least I thought I was), and I remember that the first thing I noticed when meeting other people was how their bodies looked in comparison to mine.
I desperately wanted to look more like the thinner girls in my school and had no idea that beginning to diet at such a young age would have literally changed the landscape of my life for the next 9 years and counting. Fast forward a couple degrees, a coaching certificate, probably over 30 different diets, way too many self help books and a ton of inner-work later I finally am moving beyond the dieting mentality.
What Exactly is the diet mentality?
THE DIET MENTALITY IS ANY SORT OF SELF-JUDGEMENT SURROUNDING FOOD CHOICES AND THE DESIRE TO HAVE MORE CONTROL OVER YOUR DIET AND SUBSEQUENTLY YOUR BODY.
So If I'm a health coach but I don't help people diet, what do I do?
Great. Question. This question is part of the reason I was so afraid to let go of the diet approach.
How on earth am I going to make money, help people feel better in their bodies & live the life I want if I can't give my clients the structure of a specific diet? How am I ever going to help them heal themselves without the promising the magic of weight loss? What are my clients going to be working towards if not a diet of sorts?
'm so glad you asked.
Enter: the anti-diet
I will spare you all the details in this post, if you want them you can visit any of Kelsey Miller's posts on Refinery29. Essentially, help my clients let go of the guilt, body hatred, strict rules and food fears that come as a byproduct of dieting.
I'm going to be writing a series of posts in the next few weeks on transitioning from the dieting mentality to a more intuitive approach, but in the mean time download my Recognizing the Diet Mentality Cheat Sheet to help understand where you might be falling victim to the diet mindset- even when you think you're past it.